The background of your past doesn't need to become the foreground of your future.
How many times do you think this? How often do we look to our past failures and think this is who I am, this is what I do? That those failures really are who I am. That when I set those goals and miss them, it's my true self and not the product of my environment or just a product of what I was going through at the time?
I know I do. I was within 12 pounds on my goal weight last summer. I have never been that close. I was thrilled. I couldn't believe it. But then, something happened. I started eating too much. I started slacking on my workouts. I started having a negative attitude. And you know what that caused? A 20 pound weight gain over the past year. Yes. I went from 12 pounds away from finally reaching something I have wanted for my entire life, to going the opposite direction.
What happened? I don't know honestly. I was so excited to be at that spot. I bought size 12 pants, which I've never done. My bottom tends to take forever to show a loss. Maybe the brain couldn't handle it. It fell back to thinking I would gain it back. It fell back to the same mentality that let me gain all that weight in the first place.
I need to focus on the times when I did lose the weight successfully. I need to harness that mentality and keep going. Ignore the nagging, persistent thoughts that I can't do this and tell it, hells yea I can do this! I've done it before. You may have won in the past, but I can win now. My future is for me to decide. I do not have to continue to allow my past to determine how I live my life.
How about you? Do you allow your past to determine your future? Or have you mastered the art of ignoring the negatives of the past and forging ahead with optimism for the future?